the mind is such a dangerous place. it's where overthinking happens. it's where thoughts collide. it's where feelings are sometimes marked as irrelevant. it's where our mentality is both created and destroyed. but all the while, it is powerful. while we're always told to follow our hearts, our mind usually makes the decisions, and that's what gives it its power. and that alone can be very very intimidating. this is why when we feel ourselves overloaded with thoughts, we practically go crazy to a point where we don't even know what the purpose of our existence is.
but what if we can, not so much change, but control that? we as people often forget that we are the creator of our own minds. God created us, but he did not create who we are, he left that job to us. your mind is the way it is because of the agenda you've built for yourself, as is mine. where am i going with this? it's time we really start learning to control what we have created. hey, if the Lord does this so well, why can't we?
people have written loads of books and have created all sorts of "religions" and techniques to "teach" us how to control our minds. it's all a bunch of bullshit, honestly. the only real way to control your thoughts is giving YOURSELF that power and courage into doing so. i am not saying we can sit here and stop ourselves from automatically overthinking certain situations, because that would be saying that we can control what is natural..and that's false. however, when the time does come and your mind is overanalyzing something that doesn't deserve much thought, the best thing to do is to relax your mind before you demonstrate those analyzations to the world. in other words, don't just "THINK" before you speak. RELAX before you speak. RELAX before you do something. you can't always just 'think' before you speak, because you can think all day today and still say the wrong words when trying to get your point across tomorrow. shit like that does happen and it happens very often. i am a living testimony to that. the key to validating all of your thoughts is always to relax them first. having multiple thoughts pop up in your head at the same time is just like listening to a bunch of crying babies at the same time – horrific and fucking ANNOYING. if you have multiple thoughts going on in your mind at the same time, how will you ever know which thought is actually valid when you open your mouth? you won't.
now what i mean by "valid" is this: i am not trying to sit here and say that what we feel isn't valid. but thinking is not always the same as feeling and i think we can all agree with that at our age. yeah our hearts are just an organ that pumps blood and oxygen. but i truly believe there is a spot in our brain that connects to our true feelings, and that spot is only identified as our heart metaphorically. that spot in our brain causes our hearts to be fast and very slowly depending on how we feel. that spot is the spot is the spot we try our hardest to tune in but get completely blocked by a bazillion other thoughts racing through our minds. that is the place where our truest feelings resort from. now, i am not trying to sound like a philosopher who's lost their damn mind, nor am i trying to sound FAKE educated. i just want to DEEPLY get my point across, and if that means mind fucking you on accident until it happens then so be it lol.
getting straight to the point , the best way to deal with horrible situations is to first humble your thoughts. i know that sounds weird because when people think humble they think of a person who has it all in life but doesn't show that off. but, while that may be true, let's remember that there is always a deeper meaning to a word than we know. the definition of humble is this:
as an adjective, it means - having or showing a modest or low estimate of one's own importance.
as a noun, it means - lower (someone) in dignity or importance.
Let's take the noun definition and run with it. "lower someone in dignity or importance". Well when I say to humble your thoughts, that's exactly what I mean, lower them in dignity or importance. Not every thought thats pops up in our mind is of importance or is even relevant, but when we automatically decide to speak on them once they pop up, we speak on them as iF they are of relevance or important, and as if they are more powerful than anyone else's thoughts. get it? basically, we don't always say irrelevant things thinking they aren't important when we say them. we don't always know just how irrelevant our thoughts are until we say them out loud, and think about it again later. and to be quite honest, the only reason we don't catch that is because we never allow ourselves to. this is what i mean about relaxing before saying or doing something when going back and forth with someone, whether it's a simple discussion or a huge argument. you don't want to constantly do or say things you will regret later, and to avoid that you must humble your thoughts.
how can you "humble" your thoughts, or relax? easy. take deep breaths. if the overthinking occurs because you are arguing or bump heads with someone, well.. always put yourself in the other person's shoes. always! the most important technique to fixing an issue with another person is to put yourself in their position. once you do that, it would be easier to understand why you got into the disagreement in the first place..and that will help you figure out the next step, which is what you need to do or say to rid of any negative feelings and clear up any misunderstandings in the most comfortable way possible. if the overthinking occurs because of a personal situation, then you need to remind yourself of how you got into what's troubling you in the first place. remain positive and remain focused. always seek advice before taking action. the negative thoughts WILL come about without you wanting them to, but it's all about how you handle it. don't allow these thoughts to define the person you are. because the person we truly are comes from the "heart" , aka that random spot in your brain where your feelings come from.
so many times in my life i wish i could have known that all i had to do was calm the fuck down lol. i have made the worst decisions due to allowing my crazy thoughts to control everything. i have had trouble maintaining my friendships and relationships because of it. however, i don't fully regret it because had i never been lost, i would have never learned. it's okay to mess up and it's okay to not always know how to control your thoughts and actions. but again, always remember that YOU are the creator of your own mind. don't blame someone else for the way you've decided to handle something. because sure other people's actions can really make us go crazy, but when ACTING on those crazy thoughts becomes an issue, it suddenly becomes our fault rather than theirs, and then what? instead of pointing fingers..humble your mind. think of all the things you could have done differently and always use that power to your advantage for next time. in conclusion, i highly suggest you CALM DOWN PEOPLE. RELAX. THINGS DON'T ALWAYS BE AS SERIOUS AS WE MOLD THEM INTO BEING. do not just THINK before you speak or do something. RELAX YOUR DAMN MINDS...then proceed. Instead of going 0-100 real quick, make 0-100 dollars real quick.
stay true, stay blessed, stay REEL. positive vibes only.
xoxo, Rina
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